If you are out to get a reading that does not satisfy your actual questions and concerns, one surefire way to do this is to hide your questions and concerns from your reader.
If you call or write asking, “I just want to know what’s going on in my relationship right now,” and that is all you want to say, I can lay some cards and hammer out a picture, but it’s going to take longer than it has to to get to your real concerns. If I pull the 8 of Wands and the 7 of Swords for your situation, and I don’t know anything else, I am likely to interpret that as meaning that you are in a long-distance or other kind of difficult relationship and the strain is getting to be too much – one or both of you is on the brink of giving up, thinking that the effort invested in maintaining the relationship is not worth the payoff anymore. But if what’s really going on is that you are unhappy about the way communication has been going, and you’re wondering what’s going on with your partner, those same two cards could indicate that you sent a letter, package, or email and your message was lost, waylaid, eaten by an internet Grue, or stolen by a neighbor. See what I’m saying?
There’s something of a myth in some circles that a “good reader” ought to be able to tell you everything that’s going on without you opening your mouth and saying a word. Well, folks, sorry to burst your bubble, but that’s a crock. Some readers can tell you an awful lot without you opening your mouth, but then you can’t get all mad if what’s coming through is info about ancestors you’ve been neglecting and ignoring when what you really wanted to focus on was your career. The majority of readers – of very good, ethical, reputable, experienced readers – are going to be able to do a better job looking into your exact concerns if you tell them what the exact concerns are. A card reader or tea leaf reader isn’t necessarily also an empath or also clairaudient or clairvoyant or whatever. And even a reader who is able to get a bead on the emotional “flavor” of a situation, or on what issue drove you to seek a reading, is *still* going to be able to answer your questions more quickly and efficiently if you tell them what the questions are.
Here’s a classic “bad question” – “What’s going on with me right now and where are things headed?”
Well, Jesus wept. What *things*? When I get a question like that, and the client is not face to face where we can go along talking and pulling cards as new things come up and to clarify things that are already on the table, I’m going to do an “overview.” It will look, in not a hell of a lot of depth, at a bunch of different areas of your life. If this is not what you want, then you’d best tell your reader *what you want.*
This does not mean, “I want to know the hair color, height, date of birth, and city of origin of my future spouse, as well as the name of his college roommate’s dog.” If you call me with that stuff, I’m going to hang up and refund your money. But if you have a crossroads in front of you and aren’t sure what decision to make, I can do a reading that looks at the “best possible outcome” for several different paths or options, and you can use this information to help you make a choice. One path might offer more emotional fulfillment where the other might offer more financial security, and once you know what’s what, you can factor this info into your decision making process. It would be much more useful for you to say, “I have a few possible career paths in front of me and I’d like more information on how to choose the best one for me,” versus, “I need a reading on my job situation.”
So if you want a good reading, work on asking a good question or at least framing a clear issue.